New York Times Editors' Choice
"Beautifully written and illustrated and brilliantly argued"
Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt, Getting the Love You Want
"This brilliant book offers a pathway for couples to deepen connectedness"
Tara Brach, Radical Acceptance
"The 80/80 Marriage gives couples practical tools for shifting out of keeping score"
John Gray, Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus
"The 80/80 Marriage gives couples a powerful way to begin feeling more connected and in love"
Lori Gottlieb, Maybe You Should Talk to Someone
"This book will be hugely helpful to everyone except divorce lawyers. It’s filled with profound insights about reframing your relationship"
A.J. Jacobs, The Year of Living Biblically
What is The 80/80 Marriage?
A New Model of Marriage
Nate and Kaley Klemp were both successful in their careers, consulting for high-powered companies around the world. Their work as mindfulness and leadership experts, however, often fell to the wayside when they came home in the evening, only to end up fighting about fairness in their marriage. They believed in a model where each partner contributed equally and fairness ruled, but, in reality, they were finding that balance near impossible to achieve.
From this frustration, they developed the idea of The 80/80 Marriage, a new model for balancing career, family, and love. The 80/80 Marriage pushes couples beyond the limited idea of “fairness” toward a new model grounded on radical generosity and shared success, one that calls for each partner to contribute 80 percent to build the strongest possible relationship. Drawing from more than one hundred interviews with couples from all walks of life, stories from business and pop culture, scientific studies, and ancient philosophical insights, husband-and-wife team Nate and Kaley Klemp pinpoint exactly what’s not working in modern marriage. Their 80/80 model of marriage provides practical, powerful solutions to transform your relationship and open up space for greater love and connection.
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Nate Klemp, PhD
Nate is a writer, philosopher, and entrepreneur. Along with Eric Langshur, he is the co-author of the New York Times Bestseller Start Here: Master the Lifelong Habit of Wellbeing (Simon & Schuster: North Star Way) and is a weekly columnist for Inc. Magazine. He is also a founding partner at Mindful, one of the world's largest mindfulness media and training companies. Nate holds a B.A. and M.A. in philosophy from Stanford University and a PhD from Princeton University.
Kaley is one of the nation's leading experts on small-group dynamics and leadership development. She is a TEDx speaker and the author of three books, including the Amazon Bestseller The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership, The Drama-Free Office, and 13 Guidelines for Effective Teams. A favorite with Young Presidents Organization (YPO) forums and chapters, Kaley has facilitated retreats for more than 400 member and spouse forums throughout the world. Kaley is a graduate of Stanford University, where she earned a B.A. in International Relations and an M.A. in Sociology, with a focus on Organizational Behavior.
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