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The Case for Couples Ditch Day in Marriage

habits priorities stress Jun 24, 2025

 

Spring 1997.

Dave Matthews Band was peaking in popularity. The Backstreet Boys were just arriving on the scene. And the two of us were finishing our senior year of high school.

In a bold collective act of defiance, the two of us, along with four hundred or so of our peers, participated in the time-honored tradition of “Senior Ditch Day." Instead of going to school, we loaded onto buses and watched an afternoon Colorado Rockies baseball game. 

It was our way of saying, “We’re tired of bein...

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How to Master the Safety/Adventure Cycle in Your Relationship

 

Lately, we’ve been thinking about two seemingly opposite ways to build connection in relationships.

On one side, there’s safety.

In a chaotic and crazy world, we need this. It’s the feeling of structure, support, and routine that reminds us everything is going to be alright. 

On the other, there’s adventure.

When we take risks, do something new, and explore the edges of our comfort zone, we also grow together. 

Both safety and adventure build connection. Both can also become a trap.

S...

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Don't Let This Summer Slip Away (Use These 3 Tools Instead)

 

Along with summer comes a parenting and relationship paradox.

Less structure means more space. Time for spontaneous fun. Picnics. Trips to the pool. 

But less structure may also mean that your priorities fade away. 

And for couples with kids, this often means that even though you have more time for fun, you have less time for each other. 

Here are two ways to approach this challenge:

  1. The "let's just wing it" strategy. This isn't really a strategy at all. It's just allowing random chanc...
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Try Out This Summer Family Vacation Hack

stress vacation Jun 12, 2025

 

Summer family vacations are a time of connection, joy, and fun.

They're also often the emotional equivalent of running an ultra-marathon or completing a full Ironman Triathlon.

Why?

During an ordinary workday, we have built-in breaks from each other. We go to school, go to meetings, check our email, or run errands around town alone.

During a day on vacation, however, this sprint-and-recover world of breaks flips upside down. We wake up, together. We eat, together. We drive long distances ...

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Passcode Sharing: A Digital Relationship Trust Fall

Uncategorized May 28, 2025

 

 

You share a lot in relationships.

Your home. Your bed. Some of you share all your money. Others occasionally share a toothbrush (you know who you are).

But none of that even comes close to the sheer vulnerability of sharing this: your phone passcode.

Why?

Because someone with your passcode has access to, well, everything—your texts, your location, your browser history, your camera roll, and, yes, the bizarre things you ask ChatGPT at midnight.

Which raises a distinctively modern relat...

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Use a Smartphone Safe Word to Reclaim Relationship Attention

 

 

We've been interviewing a lot of couples lately for our new book Busy Love, and one of the things we've noticed is that the greatest threat to connection now arises from an unusual place: our phones. 

51 percent of people say that their partner is “often or sometimes distracted by their smartphone when they are trying to have a conversation with them.”  

71 percent now admit to spending more time with their smartphone than their partner.  

There’s now even a word for snubbing your partn...

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How to Stay Connected In Your Relationship When the World is Falling Apart

Uncategorized Apr 30, 2025

 

The world these days, well, it's kind of a hot mess.

Political outrage.

Stock market sell-offs.

AI bots replacing your job, our job, and maybe even this newsletter.

If you're like most couples, all of this insanity happening on the outside has a way of creating more tension and stress on the inside.

The hard days get harder. 

The arguments get more intense.

Your deepest emotional triggers become more sensitive, raw, and exposed.

All of this is a long-winded way of saying: the worl...

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Life Incentivizes Work Over Family: Here's How to Flip the Script

 

What if we were to tell you that your life is really just an elaborate video game?

The purpose of the game? To win, obviously, and score as many points as you can.

How do you score points? Three ways: money, approval, and achievement. The higher your aggregate score, the faster you move up the leaderboard, the better you feel about your position in the game. 

You might notice though that there’s something peculiar about the scoring system: you only get points for the things you do outsi...

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How to Keep Less Significant Others (LSOs) from Wrecking Your Relationship

 

 

Want to pick an epic fight with your partner?

Just do this. Take your mom’s side rather than their side in an argument.

Or this. Ditch them for a night out with your friends.

Or this. Cancel on them at the last minute so that you can join a Zoom meeting with your boss.

We’re not actually suggesting that you pick this massive fight. That would be crazy. We’re just highlighting an accidental habit that lives in the background of most relationships. 

What’s the habit? 

Prioritizing ot...

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Should You Bring an AI Companion Into Your Relationship?

affairs communication Mar 18, 2025

 

 A couple months ago, we wrote a newsletter about using AI in your relationship. We wanted to see what would happen if we asked ChatGPT for advice on navigating our own relationship drama.

But then we learned about a new way AI is showing up in relationships. People aren't just asking AI for advice. They're turning to AI for companionship.

So I (Nate) decided to explore this brave new world to see what happens when you add a third (virtual) person to your relationship.

First stop. I had t...

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